Be it whatever field, it seems women enjoy work and life more than their male partners, colleagues or counterparts. This is a trend which might have been observed by majority of us and it is not that only during this period but instead long before. Does it seem by nature? Not only work place, even in schools and colleges, girls are more enjoying studies and are more a favourite of their respective teachers and peers than are the boys, and in fact develop a friendly and close family-type relationship with their teachers which is absent among the boys.
Women also share their concerns with their friends and relations more conveniently than are the men folk, who are rather calm type at least when it comes to sharing their thoughts. Women pour out their thoughts and feelings with their friends, peers and with other ladies in a joint family system rather easily unlike men folk. Even in history one can see there are separate designated place for women’s enjoyment like rang-mahal where female-folk just enjoy and no such enjoyment place for the men-folk who are in fact more engaged in participating in war and other matters.
During the period of marriage there is an evening designated for ladies sangeet one day prior to marriage and is full of energy and enjoyment for the women. Is there any such designated time or place for the men-folk? Even there are many festivals and celebrations in which the womenfolk are more active and energetic. In fact, there are ample number of festivals and celebrations earmarked for the women. There are many festivals such as Chhath Puja, monsoon festivals of Haryali Teej celebrated by girls with folk music and dances, Mehendi ceremony, romantic festival of Karva Chauth earlier celebrated for the long life of soldiers in the war and now extended today for husband, then Attukal Pongala which witnesses huge gathering of Women-folk and is in fact listed in the Guinness Book of World Records as largest annual gathering of women, then Gowri Habba or Hartalika festival in which women-folk are the one who participate and celebrate. Has anyone seen men folk enjoying the swing with their friends as do the women during Haryali Teej?
Leave behind festivals, even among students it is the girls who are more attached, friendly and ever ready to share thoughts with their respective teachers than does the boys in schools. As far as work place is concerned, the aspect of jealousy, competitiveness, career progress and with that intention going to any extent of buttering their boss or even boot-licking is more prevalent among many of the men folk than is found with the female counterpart. It’s a common sight to see women celebrating International Women’s Day, enjoying kitty-party or many other events celebrated by going on outing, picnicking, having common lunch, shopping, etc. How many of us have witnessed men celebrating International Men’s Day or going on kitty-party, if at all that exists or some such gathering or going for shopping together?
Even coming to the dress-code, it is the women-folk who have lots of colours, models and choices and go to any market place the ratio between female and male customers, the former will dominate. They just enjoy whatever be the occasion – be it festival, be it marriage ceremony, be it shopping, be it partying, be it wearing designer clothes, etc. etc. These enjoying spirit might also be the reason that the cases of cardiac arrest is less prevalent among women than men. It is said 70-90 per cent of cases of sudden heart attacks are experienced by men. Another reason might also be that men-folk keep their stress within and hardly pour out or even find occasion to pour out and whereas women-folk share their feelings with their friends and colleagues and thereby ventilate themselves, and which seems a good habit too.
All said and done, majority men-folk are not found to pour out their feelings or share them with their own friends and colleagues and are in fact more reserved as far as that part is concerned. Heart disease tends to develop earlier in men than women and these might be the reason too. It is high time men-folk also start enjoying the day to day life just like their female counterparts. If we speak of enjoyment among men, the first and foremost things that occurs to one’s mind is having drinks and eating chicken or playing cards, etc. But these habits of men-folk hardly serve the real purpose of ventilating oneself or becoming a stress-reliever and even if it seems a sort of stress-reliever but it is for a very short and temporary phase, if compared with the feeling of outlet or ventilation attained by women-folk by such kind of participation in various celebrations, merry-making and sharing of thoughts and feelings by women-folk in normal routine.
