If there is one thing we are good as a society, that is blame game. We will blame government, government will blame bureaucracy, and they might blame chow-miens. All in all, the circle is completed. The blame ends at where it started. But, the problem is that in all this chaos the real issue is lost somewhere, much like our millennials. One similar pattern in every blame game is that, there is a victim and a punching Bag. Sometimes, the victim is the punching Bag. But, in the case of Kiron Kher’s comment on Chandigarh rape case, the victim and punching bag were different. Her rather protective comment was made out to be judgmental. The ones accusing India of being intolerant where themselves intolerant this time.
The ire she invited on social media was unfair to say the least. But a lot of credit for it should go to our mainstream media, who put on a clever headline. They clearly underplayed the entirety of her comment which said “…people should educate their boys. Even in the family, when the father doesn’t respect the mother – that has an impact on the kids.”
It may also have to do with the political affiliation of hers. Whatsoever be the reason, you can’t drag a rather bold lady with a protective approach on the same lines as Mulayam singh and Abu Azmi. If we were to build a pile of comments from our politicians who have indulged in victim-shaming, it would belittle the height of Burj Khalifa. Sadly, Kiron Kher’s comment wasn’t one of them. A comment on precautionary measure can’t be diluted with victim-shaming.
Her comment on Chandigarh rape which states that she should have avoided the auto, if it already had 3 shady looking men is akin to asking someone to lock their rooms. It’s not victim blaming.
So, if you were the one out raging over her comment, you should just hold on to your horses. If you were the one who shaped his opinion on the cleverly designed news byte, you need to dig in deeper. If you were the one who tagged her a victim blamer, you need to reconsider it. It would be difficult for you, since the politicians in our country don’t really have the reputation of being fierce feminists. But Kirron Kher isn’t your regular politician. She is a woman who has destroyed patriarchal norms every now and then and also won in a constituency which is regarded as patriarchal.
If you’re still not convinced, just remember her stance on the Varnika Kundu case which involved the Haryana BJP chief Subhash Barala’s son Vikas Barala. Questioning the people who were indulging in blame game she fiercely said, “Why should girls not step out at night? Girls are safe during the day, and unsafe at night? The problem then is with the men.” Those are not the words of a victim blamer or victim shamer. These are the words of a women who genuinely cares for women and who is one true crusader of feminism.